Dear Bonnie and Johnny,
After card swapping, it feels like we are all kind of like family now. So I am regretful that I did not know your brother or Johnny’s Mama. If I had, I could have written you a nice sympathy card about Bob and Pearl, and what they meant each meant to me.
I spent over two hours trying to write this card without saying “I am sorry for your loss.” I do not think that really means anything, but it is what you write on a sympathy card when you have no idea what else to write.
I do not know what it feels like to lose a direct family member. The idea of having to do so has always haunted me. I suppose that if it happened, I would grieve and get through it as other people do.
But I do know that my heart would really hurt—as if it was an aching fist squeezed too tightly, that just hung heavy in my chest.
I have heard it said that other people may forget your name, and that they may even forget all the things that you said and did to them, but that they will never forget the way you made them feel.
It is that way with my Grandpa. I do not feel like he ever died. It seems more like he is just off in the next room all the time. I can still remember his laugh and the way hearing it made me feel—no one else in the world has a laugh like that. That part of him stayed behind with me.
After the grieving, I hope that each of you will feel your lost loved one in this way.
Respectfully, Bryan Edmondson
- Showing Sympathy to Friends Who Are Grieving (berries.com)
- The Sympathy Card (ucsc.uloop.com)
- What To Do When A Friend Loses A Pet (psychologytoday.com)