In the womb as unborn babies, we each shared ourselves with our mother through the umbilical cord of life. In this union, we are totally dependent upon our mother for our very existence. We received nourishment from our mother. And with her, we also shared the very same breath of life.
Through this connection with our mother, we joined together in the union of a shared human bond of safety and love. We needed our mother, just as our mother needed us to need her also. The psychologically healthy bond between two people fulfills the needs of both individuals
I believe that as we live out our lives, we carry an unconscious emotional craving for this original nascent union. We seem to seek emotional connections with other human beings to satisfy our craving. We still seem to need to share our selves. We all need to need someone, and at the same time, we need to feel needed by him or her. I think one human being must join emotionally with other human beings in order to feel fulfilled, in order to be truly happy, and even in order to survive.
And in joining together with another, we are something far greater than we are as two individual and separate beings.
Certainly this is why the things in life that we tend to value most are our relationships with special others. We value connections such as sharing ourselves with our spouses, our families, close friends, the fellowship with other kindred spirits.
And for countless human beings worldwide, a close, intimate connection to a personal and loving God.